Let us, for a moment, assume you read my last blog entry about considering yourself before getting married.  Assuming also, you determined that you are the “marrying kind” I will pursue the question of your relationship.  I refuse to believe that people don’t already do this before getting married - then again, Elvis chapels exist for a reason.  Anyway, I don’t assume to have the answer for this one.  Except to say, different things work for different couples.  There is isn’t one question or one aspect to look at that will tell you “for sure”.  I think that’s my advice to you - don’t compare.  After all, you are so in love others don’t come close right?  Look to your friends for support and a sounding board.  Take their advice for what it is - an outside opinion.  The REAL answers to any relationship question has to come from the INSIDE.  Know what does work for you and keep it going!